I always questioned my mom and argued when she would push her ways on me but I most often gave in because mom knows best. Did she really know what was best for me when I needed to decide on my college education where I had to choose a major...."go into business becuase those are where the jobs are" when I really wanted to study criminal jutice. Why did I listen...because she was helping me pay my tuition or because mom knows best? Did mom know and have the right to tell me she did not like the boy I was dating and why she did not want me with him. Did she really know and understand why I was friends with all different types of people...was it her place to tell me not to play with a certian "type" of kids? At the time no way....looking back at it now... ok maybe she had a point being they all ended up in a pretty messed up situation in life. So how do you decide and figure out what is valid vs what you need to learn/decide on your own??
Now that I am married with children of my own it has been a constant battle of what is best for my kids. Sleeping on stomach vs back?? Using a sterializer or boil the bottles (it does the same thing...right??), spoon feed baby earlier vs later as they recommend now?? I give lots of Omega 3's...why??? we never did that" I now need to rationalize every decision even if it goes against what mom says becaue does mom really know best?? I mean not for nothing but when my mom was pregnant with me smoking was not a big deal, driving with your kids in the front without a seat belt was legal, the doctor told my mom to have 3 drinks a day when she was pregnant with my brother so she would not go into early labor. So with the age of computers and more research on well just about everything....does mom know best???
It is hard to go aganist the grain especially because my mom is a doctor but I have learned to drop and not argue over every little thing I do not agree with. It is not worth a battle over my kids wearing socks and sneakers to go play even if it is 90 degrees (I would have them in open sandles like most people), it is not worth the fight over the little things. But, I will stand my ground when I know in my heart something is worth a day or so of arguements....eg: I want additional food allregy testing done on my daughter (she believes it is not worth the pain to get it done).
So does mom know best.....ok....most of the time:) Mom knows does know best in the sense of love, life, to keep kids out of trouble, to raise a child with morals, manners and respect. All of a moms decisions are for what she really thinks is best for her baby. But mom(s) also need to listen to what is in their child's heart. Going against mom is not easy but it is necessary sometimes for you being your own independant person!
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